Religion vs. common sense

By: Barbara Farina 

As many already know a few days ago a girl only eight years old died on her wedding night in Yemen. The name of this girl was Rawan, her parents arranged a marriage with a man that is 40 years old. On their wedding night, her husband took his wife, again, his 8 years old wife, and decided it was good idea to consummate the sexual act as they were married. The result of this was that Rowan died on her wedding night. According to the doctors who examined the cause of death, it was a uterine rupture and tearing of his genitals. Probably, she bled to death.

In both Yemen and in many other parts of the world, it is normal arranging marriages between children and adults. This is not the first case and certainly not the last, since the laws of Islam approve of such practices. In my humble opinion, savage customs which violate all rights and both adults who marry these children and families of children who marry them off to adults should be tried as pedophiles.

I can I respect all religions. Everyone is entitled to believe what they want, but I think we all know what is right and what is wrong. An adult that has sex with a girl or a boy is wrong, and that is common sense.

If you do not mind I’ll relay a little history.

In 2009 a 12 year old girl was forced by her parents to marry a man twice her age, after three days in labor, the girl dies.

In 2010 a 13 year old girl dies after being raped by her own husband as this was the need to prove his manhood. I guess the murder and rape would have seemed the best way. For him of course.

Two months ago 11 year old girl ran away from home to avoid a marriage of convenience. Suffice it to say that whoever was to be her husband also was an adult.

These practices are common in Yemen and the government approves this for religious issues, and again I wonder what about common sense? What about the sense of what is right and what is wrong?

I insist this is not only happening in Yemen. Under the laws of Islam, and sorry if someone feels attacked, millions of children die every year worldwide.

As a mother, I cannot help but ask myself what the hell her parents were thinking when they agreed to this? Or why some parents allow this to happen? The religious beliefs are one thing, but too many of these girls are bought from their families to be wives for a few dollars. The deficiencies in some areas are such that some families, especially in rural areas, accept this for money. Personally I think some people should not have children. The children are not possessions.

Every time something like this happens, what comes to my mind is everyone should combat the sexual abuse of minors and adults, human trafficking and a recurring question – What are we talking about when we talk about morality?


One thought on “Religion vs. common sense

  1. It’s the culture in which they were raised that permits those actions. The same ones that make permissible for 14-17 year olds to be put on birth control to have sex with randoms, in this country. It’s a cultural difference. What makes one astounding to us and vice versa to them, is that we are outside the culture. In my opinion, it’s more about the government than the religion. Children are being forced to marry adults in many countries with all kinds of religions. India is another example. But I think you did a good job of being sensitive to that.

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