Lately it seems that people think they can do and say whatever they want just because they have mouths. It’s like they think if they don’t use them – all the time – they will lose them. Not everything that people say is bad, but far too often, people speak up only to tear others down.
I want to be very clear with this and there be no confusion. Nobody, and I mean nobody, can talk about me or for me. In the same way, I think and this is true of everyone. No one can speak for another person or judge another person’s life or how that person chooses to live it just because one day they woke up and believed them self to be an evangelist that comes to save us.
Apparently, some men, and women, believe that women must live and act in certain ways. This is the dumbest thing that exists. Women are all different. We all have different life experiences.To judge a woman by how she lives, is at least, a level of scary ignorance.
I do not know what makes them think that all women live as we want. The truth is that perhaps most women live as they can. Each one is a story, all with different experiences.
If you really think that a woman likes to be a prostitute (maybe some like to, it is not my duty to judge) then you are wrong, in the same way that it is wrong to think that all women who are accountants like to be accountants. It’s what they have to do to survive.
The fact that you call a woman a bitch and speak badly of her, speaks poorly of you more than it ever will of her. Punishing a woman because she is a prostitute, or works in a hot line (which incidentally many men and women consume) is wrong. To judge her because she is independent and does not need anyone to be who she is, because she is a lesbian or straight, or whatever the case is, is simply wrong.
Women are many things – not just what you see them as at first impression. First we are women, daughters, mothers and sisters. We work in many cases in what we can (if we’re lucky in what we like) we try to take path in life and fight against stereotypes permanently armed by society against us. We raise our children often alone, and for them to be able to be happy and give them what they need, we do whatever it takes.
We love who we want and sleep with who we want – at least some of us. Some women cannot even talk about love or sex because it is forbidden by their religion or government. Thinking about being happy with who you want is not an option for many women.
But this is the society in which we live. It is wrong that we choose to be with someone we love, but okay for someone else to tell us who we should love or that we need to marry at age 10. That we will be stoned if we sleep with a man other than our husband, or being killed because we love a person of the same sex. To do so opens up the floodgates for others to publicly condemn us and try to force us to think and feel differently.
Lately it seems that it’s okay to take a gun and defend my country but it is bad if I want to marry to another woman. It’s okay if I’m a whore with my husband in bed and I meet his needs but it´s bad if I exercise prostitution to feed my children.
These examples are extreme but real. They are too real for too many women around the world. Before judging how I live or what I do you better know my story – and the same is true of everyone.
Nobody has the right to judge another person just because they like to hear them self talk or it makes them feel superior.